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Happy Halloween

I hope you all had a wonderful time on Halloween, no tricks, all treats. For me, some of that enjoyment goes back to my youth when my mother, a 6th grade school teacher, would share with my brother and me some of her theatrical abilities by occasionally dressing as a witch to hand out candy to the trick-o-treaters, or by reciting spooky poetry to us.

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The poem she did the best at Halloween was “Little Orphant Annie” by the Hoosier poet James Whitcomb Riley. I share the poem with you here and encourage you to read it out to your children as we get close to one of the funnest, spookiest holidays of the year. I hope you can create the same wonderful, spine-tingling thrill of that holiday for your children that my mother created for me.

LITTLE ORPHANT ANNIE

by: James Whitcomb Riley (1849-1916)

To all the little children: — The happy ones; and sad ones;
The sober and the silent ones; the boisterous and glad ones;
The good ones — Yes, the good ones, too; and all the lovely bad ones.

LITTLE Orphant Annie’s come to our house to stay,

An’ wash the cups an’ saucers up, an’ brush the crumbs away,

An’ shoo the chickens off the porch, an’ dust the hearth, an’ sweep,

An’ make the fire, an’ bake the bread, an’ earn her board-an’-keep;

An’ all us other childern, when the supper-things is done,

We set around the kitchen fire an’ has the mostest fun

A-list’nin’ to the witch-tales ‘at Annie tells about,

An’ the Gobble-uns ‘at gits you

Ef you

Don’t

Watch

Out!

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Wunst they wuz a little boy wouldn’t say his prayers,–

An’ when he went to bed at night, away up-stairs,

His Mammy heerd him holler, an’ his Daddy heerd him bawl,

An’ when they turn’t the kivvers down, he wuzn’t there at all!

An’ they seeked him in the rafter-room, an’ cubby-hole, an’ press,

An’ seeked him up the chimbly-flue, an’ ever’-wheres, I guess;

But all they ever found wuz thist his pants an’ roundabout:–

An’ the Gobble-uns ‘ll git you

Ef you

Don’t

Watch

Out!

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An’ make fun of ever’ one, an’ all her blood-an’-kin;

An’ wunst, when they was “company,” an’ ole folks wuz there,

She mocked ’em an’ shocked ’em, an’ said she didn’t care!

An’ thist as she kicked her heels, an’ turn’t to run an’ hide,

They wuz two great big Black Things a-standin’ by her side,

An’ they snatched her through the ceilin’ ‘fore she knowed what she’s about!

An’ the Gobble-uns ‘ll git you

Ef you

Don’t

Watch

Out!

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An’ little Orphant Annie says, when the blaze is blue,

An’ the lamp-wick sputters, an’ the wind goes woo-oo!

An’ you hear the crickets quit, an’ the moon is gray,

An’ the lightnin’-bugs in dew is all squenched away,–

You better mind yer parunts, an’ yer teachurs fond an’ dear,

An’ churish them ‘at loves you, an’ dry the orphant’s tear,

An’ he’p the pore an’ needy ones ‘at clusters all about,

Er the Gobble-uns ‘ll git you

Ef you

      Don’t

          Watch

               Out!

                      Happy Halloween!

Use Hypnosis For Healthy Living Habits

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 For many people, Labour Day is the last day of summer. The hills are sprinkled with fall colors. Kids are back in school and we’ve certainly noticed cooler days over the last week or so. For all intents and purposes, we will soon be headed into Autumn. And with Autumn come the Fall/Winter holidays. It’ll soon be time to put away your shorts and tank tops, store the lawn furniture, and prepare for colder temps.

Fall means different things to different people. For some the emphasis is on family gatherings, for some it’s parties and festivities. Whatever your area of emphasis, it’s hard to imagine the Fall without thinking about food. Maybe that means canning, dehydrating, or storing foods in some other way. Perhaps it conjures images of turkey feasts, plates piled high with various confections, or time enjoyed with others savoring the delicious smells of the holidays. Or maybe it brings to mind the threat of an expanding waist-line.

Trimlife Hypnosis

This Saturday will be the last day with my current Trimlife group. We’ve spent the previous five weeks using hypnosis to create healthy living habits. Each of us has focused on the unique area(s) important to us, whether that be reducing the amount/type of food we eat, such as excess carbohydates, fats, or sweets, eliminating a specific (nemesis) food, learning to address emotional issues that tend to bring on unhealthy or compulsive eating, or increasing the motivation to increase activity (exercise). There has been lots of education on healthy living habits and plenty of sharing our struggles and successes. For my part, I have really enjoyed working with these women. I learned from them and appreciated seeing them encourage each other and me.

Hypnosis to Stop Holiday Weight Gain

As I anticipate the coming Fall weather, more time indoors, and the importance of food that is associated with the holidays, I am grateful for the healthy living habits I have begun. Using Trimlife hypnosis has allowed me to ditch my addiction to soda that has been with me for more than 40 years. Some of my group members have used hypnosis to eliminate such foods as potato chips, French fries, cookies, chocolate, and more, all without feeling deprived.

Using Trimlife hypnosis has helped me to sleep better, be consistent at increasing time moving (I still avoid using the word “exercise” because of it’s negative connotations), and the hypnosis is directly responsible for my improved mood and attitude about healthy living. This is a weight management program I can live with for life.

Results-Healthy Living Habits

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My next Trimlife group will start on October 1st. That will give the new group time to learn all the hypnosis skills to eliminate their food nemesis, learn how to control cravings, begin healing the emotional wounds that are often the basis of unhealthy eating, and get comfortable with the skills needed to navigate the holiday food temptations without feeling deprived or controlled, even when surrounded by the delights of the holiday season.

If you or someone you know would like to take control of your healthy living habits in time to prevent a seasonal battle of the bulge, call me now to reserve your space. I keep the classes very small to increase the sense of emotional safety with this delicate topic.

Learn to use the power of your mind and give yourself the gift of healthy living. Please share this blog with a friend or family member who is ready to take control of healthy living without the use of harsh diets or killer exercise programs. Using hypnosis is 30 times more effective for weight loss than diet or exercise alone. Call now.

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Making Decisions Calmly

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There once was a wise and beautiful warrior princess who led her people into battle. At the end of the great battle, her people were victorious and they began to make their way to their homes. After hacking her way through a dense jungle of ferns, vines, and mosses, the princess chose to take her rest. She was hot and thirstier than she could remember ever being in her life. She searched all around for a water source and finally found a pond that had collected around the base of some trees.

The water was dark and murky. Nearby she found that some enormous coconuts had fallen to the ground and split open. The princess took one of the giant coconut shells and dipped into the pond. She looked at the dark muddy water in the shell and though she was fearfully thirsty, she knew she could not drink it as it was.

The princess took the water-filled shell and sat down near a tree. She placed the shell on the ground beside her and leaned back against the tree. Folding her hands gently in her lap, she stilled her breathing and began to notice the sounds of life all around her. She listened to the monkeys in the trees, the birds calling to each other, and the sound of water dripping from the jungle canopy. She began to notice the rise and fall of her belly as she breathed deeply in and out, and the rhythm of her heart beating strong and regular deep in her chest. For a long while she sat calmly feeling life through all of her senses.

When she finally opened her eyes, she looked down at the coconut shell and discovered that the mud had settled to the bottom of the shell, leaving clear water above. The princess drank to her fill and being refreshed, she continued on her journey home.

Many people struggle to make difficult decisions or take painful actions. Others find it easier to charge in and accomplish their goals. If you find decision-making time consuming and draining, perhaps the lesson from the Parable of the Coconut offers you hope. Giving things time to settle while you rest and calm yourself can open you up to unexpected possibilities. You may find that you return to the task at hand with new ideas and increased vigor.

So the next time a tough choice is before you, take time to sit in a calm, relaxing place, listen to the rhythm of your heart, allow your breathing to slow and deepen, and notice how your thoughts naturally flow in tranquility. Once things have settled, you will come forth refreshed and with a clear view.

Use Hypnosis to Change Your Life

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Have you ever had one of those “ah-ha” moments? The kind that wakes you up out of a sound sleep or makes you sit up straight at work? The kind where your next thought is, ”Man that is so obvious. Why didn’t I see that before?” That’s the way Martin described his experience to me on his third visit. Martin was struggling to finish writing his 2nd book. His publisher had begun pushing him for pages, but Martin was stuck, embarrassed and unable to write.

Hypnosis to Find the Problem

To help Martin explore his “stuckness,” I had used a hypnotherapy age regression technique to explore the ways stuckness had shown up throughout his life. Martin found times when he felt stuck dating back to age 5, when he was asked if he was excited to start kindergarten and he couldn’t answer the question. The little boy inside Martin remembered tearfully feeling like he “should” say yes. But “excited” wasn’t how he felt. He had stood by his mom’s chair staring at the flood until huge tears rolled down his face.

Describing this scene as an adult in my office had really surprised Martin. I had given him the assignment to “spend time with the experience” until we met again. I suggested that he journal about the experience, that he simply notice his thoughts and daydreams, that he perhaps make notes on his dreams during the week. Finally, two days before he was scheduled for his next appointment, he texted me to say he had had one of those “ah-ha” moments that woke him from a sound sleep. Martin was very excited to come in and talk about what he’d discovered.

When Martin arrived that Thursday, his whole body telegraphed his enthusiasm. There was almost no chit-chat before he said, “I realized that I have a core belief that I don’t deserve to succeed. To have good things come to me.”

A core belief is a belief about ourselves or our experience with others that was formed early in life and influences all our decisions. Some core beliefs help us grow and prosper, such as “I am competent and talented.” Others are what we refer to as limiting beliefs.

A Limiting Core Belief

Martin had discovered a limiting belief that was keeping him stuck. His deep belief was that he didn’t deserve to complete his book and find success as a writer, so his subconscious mind helped him fulfill his belief by keeping him blocked. We needed to go in there and “repair” that belief right where it formed, at the age of 5. We needed to help 5 year old Martin let go of that limiting belief so he could grow up believing that he does deserve to succeed, helping him make decisions that bring about his success.

But the past is done, right? How do we go back and have a do-over in our childhood. That’s where hypnosis excels– helping people with problems that occurred even decades earlier.

Using Hypnosis to Time-Travel

Using hypnosis, Martin was able to travel back in time to discover several experiences, which had caused him to develop his limiting belief. While he was in trance, we brought resources to those experiences to help his younger self handle each experience in a healthy and successful way, thus healing the problem. He was then able to express a new belief: I deserve to be successful.

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Next he time-traveled into his future and carried the new belief into a hoped-for experience. He experienced himself succeeding in a couple of things he planned to do in his future.

Finally, Martin returned to his current self and was helped to experience all the feelings, thoughts, and sensations in his body while being successful. At the end of the session Martin said he was eager to get back to his computer and start writing. He indicated that ideas were popping into his head already. Martin was no longer stuck.

Success From a New Core Belief

A few months later Martin sent me a text telling me that he had completed his manuscript. He promised to send me a copy when it was published.

Most people have some limiting belief that holds them back from fully living the life they dream of. Hypnosis is one tool that is exceptional at helping you heal your “stuckness” or other form of limitation. If you are interested in pushing forward, call today for an appointment. Don’t let the past hold you back. Call now 801-494-7612

Anxiety Is Good For You

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It may seem a strange thing to say that anxiety is good for you, but without some anxiety we would accomplish very little. Remember that anxiety is a stimulus, an urge to change something. A little anxiety may cause you to study for your driving test or go see your doctor once in a while. It is only when anxiety becomes excessive for the situation that it is a problem.

The Evolution of Anxiety

Anxiety is part of our evolutionary development and its purpose, to keep us safe, is the most efficient way possible. Let me illustrate.

One day Mrs. Neanderthal was out gathering wood to build a cooking fire. As she searched through the brush and trees in the nearby forest, her arms grew heavy with small branches and twigs. She reached for one last piece wood in the low brush when all of a sudden something long and thin sprang up and bit her arm. She dropped all of her wood, shrieked, and ran for the safety of her warm cave.

In the firelight of the cave, the tribe’s medicine man looked at the two small punctures on her arm and gently applied herbs and moss to the swelling wound. Mrs. Neanderthal was carefully tucked into a bed of warm animal skins and the tribe began to dance and chant around the fire, hoping to summon the healing powers of the spirit world.

Mrs. Neanderthal became quite ill and suffered much pain but before too long the fevers left and the wound healed. Soon she was able to return to her usual life in the tribe. She even returned to her duties of collecting firewood.

On a sunny spring day, she headed once more into the forest to collect more wood. As she reached for a small branch, the wind came up and the low brush and trees began to sway. A shadow from the trees flashed in the corner of her eye as she reached for a branch on the ground. Suddenly Mrs. Neanderthal threw her bundle of wood to the ground, her heart racing, her breathing caught in her throat. Beads of sweat appeared on her forehead and her hands became wet. Looking around in terror, Mrs. Neanderthal ran from the forest in a blind panic. When she reached her cave, she fell to the ground by the campfire. When she caught her breath, she tried to explain to the tribesmen who had gathered around her what had just happened but her mind was in a fog.

Nothing had attacked her. She had no wounds. She also had no firewood. What she did have was a great feeling of confusion and a dread that they would ask her to collect more firewood. From that day on, Mrs. Neanderthal felt panicked every time she thought about collecting wood or going into the forest. Even to cool off in the forest in the heat of summer was impossible.

To ensure her survival, Mrs. Neanderthal’s primitive brain had associated the moving shadow with the moving snake. In sloppy fashion, it had associated collecting firewood as well as the forest with her fear, pain, and sickness from the snake bite experience.

Our modern brain has developed the ability to analyze and make decisions based on ever changing information, but we are still hard wired for survival. Our brain often recognizes patterns in sloppy fashion. We feel the anxiety that is meant to keep us alive in situations that are not life threatening. In terms of survival, this is a case of better safe than sorry.

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In today’s world, some one sitting in a business meeting, who is unexpectedly called upon to speak to the group may find her mouth suddenly dry, her throat constricted, and her chest tight. Despite finding it difficult to breath, she may be able to convey the material needed in the moment but from that time on, any time she is approached by someone she doesn’t know, she again finds herself in panic mode. She learns to avoid all meetings. Soon, she can barely bring herself to go to work. And in worst case scenario, she becomes house-bound with agoraphobia. The fear-based learning (anxiety) is self-reinforcing without treatment.

The good news is that anything which is learned can be un-learned and replaced with healthier ways of acting and re-acting. Anxiety is the 3rd most common psychiatric illness, just behind alcoholism and depression, but it is very treatable.

You don’t have to suffer from anxiety, excessive worry, or symptoms of panic. Call today to start taking back peace and control in your life.

                  Call 801-494-7612 for an appointment

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Welcome New Year 2016

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My final post of 2014 was about goal setting for the new year. I spoke of wanting to live more intentionally. As I have spent time reviewing my journal and posts of 2015, I see that I accomplished goals that were important to me. I wanted to limit my work week to just four days. Goal accomplished: I now work Monday through Thursday. I wanted to figure out how to increase the number of people I help based on what I can offer them. Goal accomplished: I became trained in hypnotherapy, including the TrimLife Weight Release Program. This year has proven to me the wisdom of setting goals in order to be successful.

I’ve been spending a lot of time preparing the material for the TrimLife Weight Release Program. It is going to be a super experience for my clients who are ready to take on the challenge of releasing excess weight and regaining healthy living. I will be working the program along with my clients. Working on the material for this exciting program has given me the opportunity to do some of my own work ahead of time. Preparing the material about goals for TrimLife, I began looking at what my own overweight has cost me.

The Cost of Unhealthy Living

Earlier in the year I was working on relationships. My current physical condition limits my ability to walk distances, go on even gentle hikes, or share other outdoor experiences with family, friends and acquaintances. One day I was visiting a local pond with my brother and he suggested that we walk around the edge of the pond as we talked. Because of the terrain and my overweight, I suggested that we sit under the shade of tree. Although he never spoke an unkind word to me, I know that he would have been more comfortable if we had been able to talk and walk and frankly I would have enjoyed the changing scenery. Our trip was shorter than it might have been. I missed some real opportunities because of that.

 Thinking about the experiences I have missed out on, the aches and pains caused by the stress of extra weight on my joints, and the damage to my self-confidence from feeling judged (even self-judgement) brought on sadness. I felt some very appropriate grief. After sufficient time to feel my feelings, I decided to look at it from a different direction.

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I am tired of missing opportunities and I am ready to take personal responsibility for making the changes necessary so that my future will not be nearly so limited. This is the year of taking back my healthy living.

I am working on creating specific goals that will allow me to take charge of my health, including reducing my weight, eating in a healthier manner, and getting the rest my body needs. Even having made the simple decision to set these goals has given me a flush of positive energy. I am looking forward to tonight—New Year’s Eve 2015—when I say “goodbye” to the old year and “hello” to the new year-2016.

I’m ready for some new challenges and new outcomes. Instead of making New Year’s Resolutions that disappear by the 2nd weekend of January, try setting some goals that allow you take charge of your life.

Welcome 2016—The Year of Healthy Living!

Have a Safe Halloween and Set Your Inner Child free

 Halloween is on the horizon. Kids tell their moms what they “want to be” for Halloween. Moms begin to think about how to construct or where to purchase those costumes. When you hear others talk about Halloween, costumes, and trick-o-treat, do you think, “Wow! I remember when…”?

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I think back to the time I was the “I dream of Jeannie” harem girl complete with blonde ponytail, or Scarlet O’Hara with the big hoop skirts, or the year I made a black cat suit and a grey mouse suit for my 7 year old son and 5 year old daughter.

Halloween in America has come a long way from its origins– All Saints Day or All Hallows Eve, when ghosts and goblins roamed the earth, and neither man nor beast would set a step outdoors for fear of harm.

Now you start planning costumes and parties weeks in advance. You purchase big bags of snack size candy bars at least two weeks in advance and debate how old is “too old” to trick-o-treat. You worry about the safety of the candy the little darlings will get during their night of fantasy and buy florescent tubing to put around their necks, waists, and wrists to make them more visible to traffic. You agonize over how to keep the kids warm if we have one of those early fall snows or, worse, what if it rains?

This year I find myself wondering, with all the worries, real and imagined, is it worth it to “celebrate” a holiday so far removed from its original purpose? Yet when I heard a couple of Moms discussing all their efforts to come up with the costumes their kids wanted, I found myself once more thinking about the childhood of my granddaughter, my son and daughter, and my own Halloween memories. For just a few minutes my “inner child” was once more bobbing for apples, competing in the youth costume contest, and feeling the mystical joy of using my imagination to create that perfect Halloween costume.

It didn’t last long and soon I returned to the present and remembered all the warnings: check all the candy, don’t go trick-o-treating to anyone you don’t know, be careful crossing the street, walk don’t run, stay together, and …

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My final thoughts are: follow common sense safety rules and have a safe Halloween– but don’t forget to let your own inner child have a good time too!

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9/11–A Day to Remember

 

This Thursday is the 13th anniversary of the day we watched in horror as hijacked airplanes were flown into the twin towers of the World Trade Center in New York City. For many of us, this is a day of memories we really wish that we did not have. Yet although the memories may be painful or scary, it is impossible for us to let the day pass without noticing its unique and dark history.

Revisiting 9/11

The memorial monument, called Reflecting Absence, dedicated to remembering the tragedy of 9/11 opened on Sept 11, 2011. It is a beautiful park with two glorious fountains each surrounded by an unbroken bronze ribbon on which has been incised the names of the victims and first-responders lost in this savage act.

Why we look back

What purpose does this memorial serve more than a decade after such a terrible event? Memorials serve to mark a sacred place or a person of some special character. It provides a place to grieve and to tell stories, to remember. Memorials give us a place to share emotional support; it presents a public display of acknowledgement of life, and honors those lives we mourn. The memorial conveys forever what they stood for and it inspires us deeply.

Reflecting Absence

Even though it was born of an act of terrorism, the World Trade Center Memorial in New York City offers a place to focus our longing for peace. In whatever way you remember, in whatever place you find yourself, I hope this Thursday will be a day of peace and contentment on which you can reflect those ideals of freedom and hope we all cherish, and on any loved ones no longer with you…for whatever reason.

Experience, the Brutal Teacher

“Experience: that brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn.”
—C.S.Lewis

I’ve been working toward starting a blog and website for quite some time. I wanted to write something meaningful for the first blog post but struggled with how to capture all that I feel about my journey to this place. I finally accepted that there is no one right way and when I came across the quote by C.S.Lewis, I knew that I had my starting point. I invite you to join me as I share what I have learned. I hope you find information that is useful, hopeful, and healing. I look forward to reading your comments and questions.

All my best, Lura Carey, CMHC, RN

CONTACT ME:
Lura Carey, CMHC, RN
(801) 494-7612
lura.juracancenter@gmail.com